Sex before or after the marriage?
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Matthew J
Absolutely before. I am far too kinky too take a risk like that, only to find that you are incompatible in a very important respect, but be unable to turn back. It’s not everything in a relationship, but it matters, and people that say that it doesn’t matter simply don’t understand it 
Gordon
Definitely sex before marriage. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and sex is one of the components of a marriage. You wouldn't buy an iPhone, a house, a car or anything else without doing some research before you buy it. 
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Gordon
And of course there is no on and off switch when it comes to sexual desires. So if you make that lifelong commitment to someone that you're not compatible with, you can't just flip the sexual stuff to the off position for the rest of your life. 
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Nick's World
If there's 1 thing I know from reading and watching stories its that sexual compatibility does indeed matter and you can't get taht from a conversation. YOu can take a test with your future wife and still not fully know if you are truly able to enjoy sex together until you have sex together, with protection, of course.
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Gordon
I don't understand how people could make that lifelong commitment without going through all of the motions that they will be expected to go through once the commitment has been signed. I think that a lot of people who do that do it for religious purposes. 
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Nick's World
You see this in Mormon culture, no sex before marriage and while the divorce rate among mormons is much lower than in mainstream society, part of me wonders what contributes to that? I just wonder if the women in these marriages are truly satisfied by their husbands? especially ones who've been born in the church and thus have very little to no sexual experience.
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Gordon
I think a lot of that has to do with what they were taught growing up. In those religions, you stay no matter what unless adultery has been committed which I believe is your only way out. And in a lot of of those religions the man is the king, the head of the household, the master and the buck stops with him. 
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DevilishAnthony
I've never been married, and I've had my fair share of sex, so I'll just let that speak for itself.
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Musicman81
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Tyler⚔️🛡️
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Tapper-🇬🇧
hahah Mate it has to be before. You want to spend the rest of your life with some one who fucks like a wet sleeping bag. Just know. I never get how people can even ask this question! Sex is not the be all and end all, but man when you have to spend the rest of your life without it then you will soon get fed up!
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Nick's World
Well, I'm a virgin. I've never had a relationship, but the 1 factor I keep hearing about in relationships that makes it good or doesn't is sex. That has to count for something.
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Romy
Am I truly the only one who's kinda weirded out that in the year of our sweet Satan 2026 this question's still being asked?
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Missy
The old way says if you have sex with someone, you are married to them. That's why you should get to know each other before you do that kind of thing. 
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Missy
If you let the church marry you, you're marrying the state that you're in. It's a matrimonial marriage, which is under the Catholic Church. Why would you want that? 
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Chase Shepard
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LordLundin
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Zoe
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scabbs
@LordLundin before, after, and during the. Ok 99 % people here agree with me and it strengthens my opinion. @user949686 used almost the same arguments like one of my friends did. And i kind of understand her and kind of not. There is people who has active sexual drive, but there are people who don't care. There are people who are absolutely asexual. You're married and you want to have sex with your partner, but your partner just lays there and says hey take me and I'll just put up with it for five minutes, or can you be in that position so I'm comfortable scroling ticktock? And it's not something you can just put aside and not do, no, hormones rule us, and if you don't satisfy your sexual desire, you will change and not in the best way. People who don't have such a strong sex drive, whether it's their nature or trauma or anything, they can argue with us all they want, but if I'm attracted to someone purely based on interests and emotionally, I'm just a friend to them.
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Gordon
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scabbs
We live in a new world, and I can't say that people around us have become happier because of this, maybe more open and more confident about the things they want only. And all this people who was trashed for being asexual or not wanting to stand in the doggy style and bark, I don't think they are happy. It's harder for them to find a partner, they don't feel confident, they don't know what to do, what will there next partner want and what they will do with it. And i think it was there before. But it was behind the closed doors and dark curtens, and people could stay with eachother just like friendship, playing love just for there children, nabers or themselfs. But, as a person with special preferences and strong sexual wants, I would never marry a person with who we didn't see eachother in the sexual context, because it's as important for me as romantic and emotional part, and i cant change it anytime soon without medical intervention.
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Hunter, the summer baby
I’m a big advocate for sex very early on in the relationship. And it has nothing to do with testing out how good the person is before committing to them, and everything to do with establishing a connection with this person through the means of physical intimacy.
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