Question about fetishes.
Loading reactions…
Matthew J
So a lot of folks might laugh at this but I think it is actually a good question. I have a theory that blind people, especially those who were born blind/lost sight early, are more likely to develop fetishes or kinks. It makes sense to me, we lack certain visual inputs and so we fill in the blanks in a sensory way. Most of the blind fetish people I know have very sensual kinks, like feat, fypers, fur, even things like scat or urine, which of course have strong smells. This is more common in men than women in my experience but there is definitely a connection.
Allure
Loading reactions…
Estelle
So for me, I really like soft things. It takes me to a very comfortable, safe space mentally and I find it easier to relax and enjoy being in the moment. I don't have any smell-related ones, actually. And while accents are cool, I find voice and vocal texture is far more important to me than the accent someone has.
Loading reactions…
Allure
Loading reactions…
Matthew J
I think you both are right though that there is a difference between fetish and preference. I wouldn’t say that having a preference or enjoyment of deep voices/accents is like a fetish in the traditional sense, any more than a sighted guy liking blonds is one such. I agree however that voice is a massive thing for me, as are certain accents. Specific American ones, Irish, South African ones or maybe Australian in the right context. But yeah I think fetish goes beyond that to a place which is non-normative. I think also fetishes and neurodiversity tend to come together as well.
Loading reactions…
Winter Blue Tardis
Loading reactions…
Dj Ray
Loading reactions…
scabbs
Thanks everyone for your openness, I was incorrect in my question, but well, you can share your fetishes / preferences then :D. @Allure aww, is it you the creator of the group in facebook? It's dead now sadly.
Loading reactions…
Calum
There is a pretty accessible fetish social media sight called FET life, the last time I was on it I was very impressed with the Accessibility with VoiceOver, very easy to navigate. Unfortunately, I was never able to  find anyone Who was interested in role-playing as a sexy bank manager who was just begging to give me an interest free loan that I would never have to repay. 
Loading reactions…
Matthew J
oh you horrible deviant! lololos
Loading reactions…
Calum
Loading reactions…
Marc
Loading reactions…
Marc
Loading reactions…
Marc
Lol actually though I feel like this is an interesting topic for a hangout sometime
Loading reactions…
Jazzy
This is interesting. This is something that perhaps isn't talked about much. Not often enough, to be sure. When I start listing all of the things that I enjoy in this regard, even in my own mind, I'm continually surprised about how long that list can get. Under the right circumstances, I think I could get into doing almost anything. At the end of the day, I think my greatest kink is actually indulging my partners' kinks. More than anything else, I take the greatest pleasure in the pleasure of my partner. The better I can make them feel, the better I feel, and the more turned on I get.
Loading reactions…
Jazzy
I do think, though, that there's an important difference between what attracts me to someone and an actual kink or fetish. I like women with nice voices. I like intelligent women. I like fun-loving women. I'm good with a pretty wide range of body types. Good hygiene is absolutely non-negotiable and essential, but I'm pretty open to whatever else. But being attracted to certain qualities of someone is not, in my opinion, the same as having a fetish or kink. By the time I get intimate with someone, attractiveness has been established. It's what happens after that that kind of gets into the category of sexual preferences... My difficulty is: So many topics surrounding sexuality have been framed by various societies as being taboo that it's tough to get people to admit what they really like and really want. Which makes things kind of crappy for a guy like me, who genuinely wants to know and would never pass any kind of judgement. Ultimately, I sure wish we felt more free, in general, to talk about sex. I pretty much never get tired of discussing it, having it, and working to get better at it.
Loading reactions…
Allure
Lol! Callum, it sounds as if you really enjoy those accents that like to collect the phlegm at the back of the throat. That does sound kind of like a fetish. 
Loading reactions…
Allure
Loading reactions…
LordLundin
Loading reactions…
scabbs
I kind of agree with those who said about some soft textures and softness, it sends shivers down my spine if I think about it too much. I like to be a little forced in bed, not like a slave but like some kind of sex toy, so my limbs are fixed and I have no choice then doing some things 😳. I have some other fetishes that i am too shy to share here :D but I also strongly agree with pleasuring my partner, unless they don't want me to do one of my turn offs, my greatest pleasure will be pleasuring my partner.
Loading reactions…
Estelle
Loading reactions…
Matthew J
Firstly Estelle, super brave of you too just lay it out like that! Respect! Anyway, the point which many other comments have touched on, is the idea of being proud/disgusted by a fetish that you have. I really understand this. On quite a fundamental level. One of the reasons I lost my first long-term relationship was due to that, and her inability to really work with it. It causes a degree of relationship turmoil for many years, so it’s something that I do really get.  I think I’m at the point now where I cannot say that I am proud of it, and if I could have turned back the clock and not picked up particular fetishes/kinks that I have, I suspect I would do it. That’s it, I think it’s something you learn to come to terms with, and except that it’s a part of your brain, and because humans are unique, but not that unique, you probably end up finding that other people out there have similar desires. I have certainly been lucky enough to find that. But yes, sexual self hatred is a real thing! And it’s worth dealing with 
Loading reactions…
Giulia
Loading reactions…
scabbs
@Estelle well i shared what i am into, so you cant say that no one did :P What age do you like to play or what age you like your partner to play, if you don't mind sharing?
Loading reactions…
scabbs
@ Giulia i think fetish is the thing that the person likes so much, that he or she cant have sex without of it. But as i said you can share here anything, fetishes, preferences, turnons. And about relationship, I agree and disagree at the same time. I don't really like that thing that people are having sex only after wedding, sometimes people aren't right for each other sexually, whether it's very specific preferences in sex, attitudes toward sex, or approaches to sex in general. It is very crushing to find out that your partner is disgusted by your fetish, so I hide mine until the last :D. It's also very disappointing to find out that your partner doesn't like sex and to hear that he or she will just give you their body as an obligation, a gift, or a way to please you to get something, anything like that. Therefore, I think that sex should happen before the wedding, because people should understand what they are getting into.
Loading reactions…
scabbs
@Matthew J that's what i mean by crushing feeling when your partner is disgusted by y our fetish. I had this thing copple of times, and i am glad that it was some short term relationships, not a year of hiding and a day of pain. I mean yes, fetishes, sex and stuff is no the main thing in relationship, but, in my opinion, it's one of the main things. And it's not just about o, she doesn't like me playing with her feet or o, he doesn't like me whipping him, I am going to cry, no. It's more about trust and matching of preferences. Of course, breaking up simply because you can't spank your partner or play with your partner's feet is petty, but if you take the picture as a whole, it is one of such mismatches in likings, preferences or views on life that can be one of the reasons for an eternal pause. Feel free to disagree with me.
Loading reactions…
Sabrina mckiernan
Loading reactions…
DevilishAnthony
Loading reactions…
Estelle
@Scabbs I'm more commonly the little. I'm not really super comfortable with going into particulars so publicly, but I'll say that much. It's turned into more than something that's purely sexual, so it's interesting... But it's my way of working through past trauma and I accept that for what it is. I don't love it, but it's become a thing I can still love myself through.
Loading reactions…
scabbs
@Estelle If you don't mind talking about it privately, can you send me a message? I promise no flirting, this is just very interesting thing.
Loading reactions…
ShawnTastic
Loading reactions…
Nick's World
Well, sense we're just letting it all hang out here, I like feet, the smell, feeling of them, the idea of getting to even touch the feet of a lady who I'm not related to is fun. I also have a thing where I like being taken care of, I don't know where it comes from, but I like giving to people too. I just like it. If its weird, so be it, its just part of who I am as a person and here's hoping I find someone who's into that stuff.
Loading reactions…
Loading reactions…