What are the keys to a great friendship
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I think a person is a good friend when they are a few things. One thing is being reliable. That person may not always be available but when they do say that they're going to do something for you or meet you somewhere or whatever it is, they will do it. That person is committed to fulfilling their commitments to you. That is so important. Or even if they can't make it or can't do it, they will tell you in advance. But they should keep these down to a minimum. They should make the commitment to you Almost as strong as their commitment to themselves or family members. Almost. I think that person will also let you just be who you are and except you. If someone is too much for someone to handle, they don't need to be in that person's life. And you cannot bring someone into your life or allow someone to come into your life and then you try to change them or criticize what they do. Absolutely not. You have to accept people or you can just let people go. I think if someone ask for advice you should give honest advice but if they're not asking for advice, shut up. If you see someone doing something dangerous or illegal or immoral, perhaps you can just give that person a nudge. No more. And if they're not going to change that behavior, they are grown just like you and they are not going to change that behavior. Leave them alone. I think a good friend will treat you almost like a family member. They will remember you on your birthday. They will check in with you if they knew that you were under the weather. They will perhaps in a quick text message asking are you OK if they knew that you went through something traumatic. Now, they don't have to be in your face every day all day or calling you five times a day. No. They have their own life. You are a part of their lives and they are acknowledging you. It's just nice to be acknowledged by your friend.