Update about the friend group situation
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Eddie Howitzer
Looking back at it I have no clue how the fuck my wife tolerated me in my early 20s!
Eddie Howitzer
The human brain is not fully developed until the age of 25, and males did not stop growing and developing until the age of 26. Also in all fairness you women mature much faster than us men! Lol 
Ciara
Yeah, I've discovered that a lot of people in their early 20s are still maturing. Whatever the case may be I'm glad I am out of that relationship because it caused a lot of stress. My new one is much better.
Eddie Howitzer
I can only speak for myself, and for the men that insecuredness  makes us do some stupid and weird shit!
Eddie Howitzer
Yes that truly did sound like high school drama, and that is why I asked! I have kids that are older than you, and one that's only a year junior to you. This kind of shenanigans will continue on for at least another five years, and by then a lot of people have moved away or have started families of their own. 
Ciara
A lot of this happened toward the end of high school, so some of it could’ve been a attributed to high school drama, but some of this also happened after I turned 18 and after he was an adult as well. My boyfriend and I are both 20. And yeah, I think a lot of it was just him being insecure. Honestly, I knew I wasn’t being treated right and I still stayed for a long time because when you’re in the middle of that, it is really hard to pull yourself out of it. It also did not help that he is really charismatic, so people believed the things that he said, and did not care at all about what I had to say, even though I was telling the truth, and he was just saying stuff to make me look bad 
Eddie Howitzer
To answer regarding your x boyfriend who gave you grief for helping out, and insecure about you saying hi to someone while it is OK for him not to follow your same guidelines. I guarantee that it was insecure ass, and he probably was trying to be the big man and fuck around on you.
Eddie Howitzer
Was that high school drama? Just curious Siera how old are you, and your boyfriend? I'm just trying to gauge where you are in life, and I guess I should be fair and let you know that I am 44 years old. 
Ciara
And honestly I could go on and on about this but those are just a few of the worst examples.
Ciara
But one of the worst things was that he made me feel bad for asking him for help, even if I was asking him to help me with very small things like getting my drink at a restaurant. He would say he was totally fine with doing it but then bring it up months later andtell me that he was mad that I even asked because I should be "more independent." Mind you, I rarely ever asked for help and when I did, again, it was just mall things
Ciara
He would also get upset whenever I so much as said hi to a guy that was a classmate, it wasn't anything weird, just "How's your day going" and that kind of stuff, and he would get super jealous every time, yet he was friends with a girl that openly flirted with him in front of me and insulted me for no reason even though I was always nice to her.
Ciara
I don't feel super comfortable sharing too much about his ex because I think that's his to share but here's just a few examples of things that my ex did. He got mad at me for writing a song about my childhood best friend just because said best friend was a guy, but our relationship was more brother and sister than anything and the song was about how the friendships you have as a kid don't always look the same when you're an adult and how people can grow apart over the years.
Eddie Howitzer
Just out of my personal curiosity, but what was so horrible about your ex-boyfriend? Also if you can share what was so horrible in your current boyfriend's ex-girlfriend? 
Eddie Howitzer
Correction I was trying to say a mutual hatred
Eddie Howitzer
A mutual patron for one anothers exes brought you two love! I love it 
Ciara
Eddie Howitzer
Do you think your current boyfriend was intimidated? Just asking because you said he was clingy when you got home 
Eddie Howitzer
What is the physical difference between your current boyfriend, and your ex-boyfriend? Is one a meethead and the other more of a nerd? 
Ciara
Eddie Howitzer
It sounds like your boyfriend is pretty fucking chill, and do you think that you were more concerned or worried about it than he was? I've never been a situation where I've ran to my ex at all, so I have no clue what that would be like. 
Ciara
Indeed it was 
Eddie Howitzer
The situation  just sounded very uncomfortable 
Ciara
Eddie Howitzer
Blind drama lol
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