Navigating polyamory during the holidays, when your family doesn’t know.
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Roibin Dall
Robert Kingett
That’s the point. Sexual freedom to let them have sex with whoever they want to without limitations so it doesn’t matter.
Laiah
With all due respect, Robert if you just have friends with benefits, how do you know they are not having sex with other people or does it really matter 
Robert Kingett
I know this is older but I felt the need to comment. I’m in an unconventional relationship. I’m involved with multiple men that are deep friends with benefits. They all know each other and they all know about each other and like each other but they do not have sex with everyone else. I enjoyed this freedom. At the time, I do not live with anybody, and I like it that way for now, but I do frequently travel to my chosen families houses. I’ve got friends with benefits all across the US. I would not say I’m in a polyamorous relationship simply because we really don’t live together but some of my friends with benefits are here in the same city as I am, but some of my other chosen family/friends wiylth benefits is on the opposite side of the US for example. I do not have any contact with biological family so chosen family/found family is the only family I have. When everybody gets together, travels from their location in order to come to a singular place, that is the greatest part is us getting together even if we live in different states. There’s a very strong sense of community with everybody. We communicate via group chat, even communicate via group phone calls, and when we get together, everybody knows each other on a very intimate level yet at the end of the day, we go our separate ways and we go home again. It really is amazing in a positive way.
Tangela
p.s. When I did come out to my mom, her actual quote was, Oh I understand! I'e cheated for years. SO that's my mom. Classy. I tried to explain the differences but ... I'm not sure it clicked
Tangela
Oh, and regarding poly-friendly content on the app, you're exactly right and I have thought about doing some but what I really want to talk about right now is... pretty boring honestly. What does being poly mean when you're not available for whatever reason? Moving/ life transition / time of personal growth, whatever. Do you still have crushes, and how do you process them while being honest about your own limits. That kind of thing. So not as ... interesting and attention grabbing as other poly content could be, but that'd be the honest post atm.
Tangela
Hi there. So I'm out to both parents and my sisters now, but that took a long time. The first man I was openly polyamerous with in nc strongly preferred a DATD, don't ask don't tell, policy. Which was really uncomfortable for me. But my family's also conservative and even now, coming out really was only possible for me without my grandparents being a part. Whether to come out at all to my grandma before she died last year was a huge internal dispute, and my mom strongly joined on the side of, absolutely do not do this. She is from a different time. Now my grandma basically raised me, so in a very real way that was deciding to let my grandma go without ever knowing me, or whether she would be able to accept it given the circumstances. And it meant accepting not knowing if she wouldn't have been able to. So that was really hard. Whether to come out or not is such a personal decision, and there really aren't right's and wrongs, just different tradeoffs. If you do, I hope it goes well for you. If it doesn't, I wish you peace with that.
Lauren
Lauren
Safe travels!!!
Laiah
AttyRose
This is a great post. I have been in a poly relationship myself and it worked well for a while. Lol my son currently is in a poly relationship and I think it's wonderful. What makes people happy, shouldn't make other people miserable. I'm sorry about the parent thing! I am also bisexual, and never told my mother. She probably would have freaked out! She's passed away now, but she was raised strictly religious. That catholic box.