Navigating polyamory during the holidays, when your family doesn’t know.
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Tangela
p.s. When I did come out to my mom, her actual quote was, Oh I understand! I'e cheated for years. SO that's my mom. Classy. I tried to explain the differences but ... I'm not sure it clicked
Tangela
Oh, and regarding poly-friendly content on the app, you're exactly right and I have thought about doing some but what I really want to talk about right now is... pretty boring honestly. What does being poly mean when you're not available for whatever reason? Moving/ life transition / time of personal growth, whatever. Do you still have crushes, and how do you process them while being honest about your own limits. That kind of thing. So not as ... interesting and attention grabbing as other poly content could be, but that'd be the honest post atm.
Tangela
Hi there. So I'm out to both parents and my sisters now, but that took a long time. The first man I was openly polyamerous with in nc strongly preferred a DATD, don't ask don't tell, policy. Which was really uncomfortable for me. But my family's also conservative and even now, coming out really was only possible for me without my grandparents being a part. Whether to come out at all to my grandma before she died last year was a huge internal dispute, and my mom strongly joined on the side of, absolutely do not do this. She is from a different time. Now my grandma basically raised me, so in a very real way that was deciding to let my grandma go without ever knowing me, or whether she would be able to accept it given the circumstances. And it meant accepting not knowing if she wouldn't have been able to. So that was really hard. Whether to come out or not is such a personal decision, and there really aren't right's and wrongs, just different tradeoffs. If you do, I hope it goes well for you. If it doesn't, I wish you peace with that.
Lauren
Lauren
Safe travels!!!
Laiah
AttyRose
This is a great post. I have been in a poly relationship myself and it worked well for a while. Lol my son currently is in a poly relationship and I think it's wonderful. What makes people happy, shouldn't make other people miserable. I'm sorry about the parent thing! I am also bisexual, and never told my mother. She probably would have freaked out! She's passed away now, but she was raised strictly religious. That catholic box. 
dendrobium1