If I see it, I will say something. You can believe that.
Loading reactions…
Antoine.
Flute player 86
Loading reactions…
Selina Lynnette
Loading reactions…
The Blind tech motivator
I agree with your points Casey. Yeah, it’s unfortunate people I like this these days thank God I am not those people because I use this platform to make friends and look for people to chat with I don’t even trust online dating
Loading reactions…
The Blind tech motivator
And I remember that post on here that someone put up about taking boyfriend applications and they blocked me just because I gave them a advice and it was somebody that I know
Loading reactions…
Sufe
First I want to say that I agree with a lot of Selina's comment. I do believe that this post came from a place of compassion and wanting to do the right thing, but as Selina pointed out, a call to action is all well and good, but yeah proposals for what that action should be needs to be a bit more clear. Also, "vulnerable" could be seen as subjective. You might perceive a 19 year old out here being approached by a 39 year old for example. You/a bystander might see their interaction and think that the 19 year old is the vulnerable one. But the 19 year old disagrees and is actually insulted that you don't think they are capable of looking out for themselves, as brash young people are wont to do? Or on the other end, if the 19 year old is the one with the intellectual advantage in the situation and is taking advantage of an intellectually vulnerable 39 year old? You intervene and the 39 year old might not have the mental capacity to understand that they are being taken advantage of. They just recognize that this 19 year old is being nice to them, pay attention etc. they don't feel vulnerable. So yeah I don't know. In the end, I think all we can do is observe, gather actual evidence, and present it to whatever authority figures that exist and can do something about it. But that is the important thing, documentation because there are a lot of rumors and he-said they-said that goes on, so document. If you see a thread and and you find the exchange between people who you think might be in a vulnerable situation, screen shot it. If you hear audio, copy it. See it. Document it. Report it.
Loading reactions…
Casey
Loading reactions…
Flute player 86
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
Loading reactions…
BlindGamer85
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
Loading reactions…
Casey
I agree with King triple whopper. It's all about how you read the room and being able to do so. I've been around this community long enough, ever since I was a small child, long enough to be able to read the room, and know who is what. About 99% of the time, I've got a pretty good idea who are the types I've spoke about in this post. I wouldn't say insert your nose into every little piece of business. That's not what I'm trying to say here. Maybe I should have elaborate a bit more in the original post, but I was trying to multitask and get ready for work, and perhaps I didn't have all my thoughts gathered. I think basically the point I'm trying to make here is that if you sense vulnerability, you sense trouble, say something too, A, the vulnerable persons, and B, the offending parties. Absolutely confront. And absolutely defend, when necessary.
Loading reactions…
Kayotic
Wait, is this you patting yourself on the back for patronizing a blind and cognitively disabled woman by calling her honey and sweetie, telling her how much you cared about her and had her best interest at heart, but then spouted some ablest nonsense about tunnel vision and mental capacity of 12-year-old girls? Or were you just trying to be a prime example of the bad guys on this app you warned her about? Or both? Asking for a friend.
Loading reactions…
Flute player 86
Wasn't trying to do any of that. He is trying to be affectionate, he's trying to be caring, and that's all there is to it. I don't mind if CASEY calls me Sweety, calls me, honey, and I don't mind if Jason does that either. They're just showing me they care. That's all that is.
Loading reactions…
Sufe
Hey flute? I didn't think Casey's post was actually about you. I have found the post that I think he was referring to. So yeah, unless somebody directly mentions you, maybe assume that you're not the main character in the story. But yes chaotic, you actually raise a pretty good point and I hope Casey will come back and answer.
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
Wth?
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
What kind of question is that chaotic?
Loading reactions…
Flute player 86
I understand that, but it's OK to show affection with friends. I get it all the time. Sorry about that. Sometimes I get confused. Can't be helped.
Loading reactions…
Casey
Chaotic, the fuck? Absolutely not! Not in the least! I don't know where you got that idea from, my guy. But no. I can assure you that is not the case. And just to clarify, this has nothing to do with flute player whatsoever. This was about another post I saw this morning.
Loading reactions…
Sufe
Kt, I actually think that Chaotic raises an interesting point. And the fact that Flute pretty much confirmed that casey has called her sweetie/whatever on occasion does kinda make casey's post a bit like the pastor preaching chastity on Sunday, only to be caught with his pants down on Monday. Casey's post did come from a good place I believe, but if he has on occasion been guilty of sweet-talking DatingApplication Candidate person and Flute types, well it is a bit ... suss. Lol🤣🔞
Loading reactions…
Flute player 86
I know. Sorry about that. I meant to say that people sometimes use honey or Sweety to show they care about someone is what I meant. It came out wrong. Sorry about the confusion. My apologies.
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
Again, I’m literally going to disability here regarding cognitive and social skills and the lack of understanding because of the disability. People like flu player 86 and others scream, neurodivergence and equality, but then when they’re called a certain thing such as sweetie or my love or whatever, then all of a sudden it’s weird. But, it’s weird to them because they don’t have a basic understanding of social context. Many of you though don’t wanna realize that or just don’t understand!
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
Replying to @sufe: Kt, I actually think that Chaotic raises an interesting point. And the fact thatBy the way, KC would never hit on flute player 86! I can tell you with 100% certainty that is not his cup of tea! Whatsoever! That’s crazy you believe he was sweet talking flute player 86! Lol I think you should be examined for your belief in that! Again, these are the same people that screamed neurodivergence and equality but then when they’re talking with people privately or they get blocked or no attention then they start screaming. He’s a weirdo referring to the guys on this app which there are many, but not in this case!
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
By the way, too chaotic, you should re-examine your friends if you supposedly were asking for a friend! That’s such a copout and not cool that they will put you in that place again if it’s true, which I do not think it is! I think you just had a personal issue with the specific Rammler that posted this ramble
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
And if I call somebody a sweetheart or honey, does that mean I’m patronizing all the women on this app? Use your goddamn brains folks! They’re just simple words that sometimes people use! Yes, of course that’s happened. Unfortunately too many women on this app were creepy guys hit them up privately, calling them, those things such as honey or sweetheart, but that was not the case on this particular ramble. Again, these are just my opinions!
Loading reactions…
Selina Lynnette
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
Loading reactions…
Selina Lynnette
Loading reactions…
Casey
Loading reactions…
Casey
Loading reactions…
King Tripple Whopper
I like that rooster in the background just has a random sidenote! Anyways, well, like I said before the issue was more chaotic questions and more feedback not you Selena
Loading reactions…
Casey
Loading reactions…
Casey
Loading reactions…
Sufe
Um wow. I feel like we really have lost the thread here. This is the last thing I'll say on it. Casey, this was a nice post, it came from a good place. I don't know what Kayotic was trying to say. But all I was trying to say is that calling people sugar, darlin or sweetie and whatever might be fine and just be taken as a turn of phrase for the region/between familiars like Selina described. But for other people who's neurodiversity is more severe? Who are in arrested development and have the mental capacity of a 12 year old for example? Calling them hon or sweetie isn't taken so casually. For some, you calling them them some cutesy/flirty anything, signals a relationship as they understand it. That is all. So basically, if you notice that you might be in the company of someone in arrested development, using flirty language casually might not be taken that way is all, and that needs to be part of a conversation if you are going to defend Flute/Candi types and vulnerable adults that when seeking a relationship might not be seeking a standard adult relationship.. I think You or someone else on this thread, mentioned adults coming in to your dm's ... afraid at the prospect of sexual contact etc? That is a child, and that is someone i would be mindful not to use anything but neutral language with is all. You can continue to social the way you want to Casey. Nobody that looks like me was coming for you the way KT and Selina are coming across. Hahaha
Loading reactions…
Doug Lee
Loading reactions…
Loading reactions…