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  • Doug Lee

    My first date, back in the 80's, and I think most women in whom I've taken romantic interest since, have been on the larger side; not because I specifically seek that, but because other things about them made them immediately draw me. Because of this, at some point I think I half-consciously started thinking, on being told a woman was larger, that maybe I should find out more instead of feeling any concern lol. But my best memory on this subject might be the girl on whom I had an immense crush in late high school. I don't think she was large at all, but a friend of mine who attended the same summer program she and I did said, "There's something, off, about her." I was terribly shy, which prevented my success at dating her I think; but I definitely remember thinking when he said that, "Ok then, no problem, think what you like; less competition. I know who I want!!!"

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  • BostonBeanStalk

    Hi Angie! I do get pretty aggravated with the way overweight people are treated. You truly never know whatā€™s going on with someone. Some people have medical conditions, some take steroids or medications for depression that increase their appetite, and genetics can play a role too. And honestly, some people just enjoy eating! Regardless of the reason, someoneā€™s weight is really nobodyā€™s business but their own and their doctorā€™s. And voices really do lie! I donā€™t think you can tell shit about someoneā€™s appearance just by hearing their voice. Iā€™m definitely someone who appreciates a nice voice, but that doesnā€™t mean it tells me anything about what the person looks like. I know a guy who sounds like heā€™s 6ā€™8ā€ and could pick up a truck, but in reality, heā€™s about 4ā€™10ā€! šŸ˜‚ You also asked whether we call people out when they say things we disagree with or just let it slide. Honestly, Iā€™d probably only call someone out in person. There are plenty of things people post that I donā€™t agree with, but Iā€™m not going to spend my day commenting on everyoneā€™s posts trying to convince grown adults how to think. I used to want to change the world. These days, I just take people at face value, pay attention to what they say and how they treat others, and decide for myself what I think of their character.

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  • Doug Lee

    Replying toĀ  @BostonBeanstalk: Hi Angie! I do get pretty aggravated with the way overweight people are treated.

    I absolutely agree about voices and body size being largely, pardon the pun, orthogonal to one another: Big voices in small frames, small voices in huge frames, etc., happen all the time. I say largely though, because I've always figured that there must be an audible component to the voice that changes with resonance. I just think it's probably hard to perceive, because we mostly hear the vibrations of the throat and not of the chest, abdomen, etc., when someone talks.

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  • BostonBeanStalk

    Replying toĀ  @dlee42: I absolutely agree about voices and body size being largely, pardon the pun, ort

    Thatā€™s an interesting point! I definitely think there are physical factors that can influence how someoneā€™s voice sounds, including resonance. And if Iā€™m being honest, there are times when I hear someoneā€™s voice and imagine them being a larger person. But Iā€™ve also learned that those impressions can be completely wrong! Itā€™s fascinating how we create an image of someone in our minds based on their voice, only to find out they look nothing like we imagined. šŸ˜‚

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  • Romy

    I've just learned never to go by voice. Voices can, and too often are, deceiving.

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