The safety standards for relationships with the iron handmade
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Beth
also keep in mind something else I do not want to depend on a man because the recent optics and misogyny proved that in general men are not the kind you should be fully dependent on dependency on a man to make any financial decisions moral decision decisions, household decisions only puts me personally at more risk. The thing I want to depend on is not to depend on him at all, and a man should know that if he’s going to make any decisions at all, he needs to be able to speak the language of collaboration, which was not even presence in my other relationship that I was just out of in and out of Clayton unfortunately does not have the capacity to actually collaborate and there’s a language behind it example, I propose X what do you think of why why don’t we try XNY instead it’s I don’t agree. You don’t get to say and all of this, but that’s just the beginning. On January 2 of this year sooner than one day into the new year, Clayton verbally harassed a caregiver in my home the problem with the harassment is it had to actually it wasn’t really a problem, but the procedure asks that the person of mandated reporter in this case has to report it Clayton believes that a woman with care needs is undesirable as a romance partner, asking me to depend on him or him to depend on me creates that inappropriate risk factor and let’s say I became a paraplegic or my body began to break down an old age. It promotes the disposability of women as a whole those with disabilities, especially. Men should not be permitted to dispose of their partners because let’s be real. It’s not the beginning of the world in the original Hammurabi‘s code for example a man it is sad may “put his wife away“ if he wants a new person but a woman? If she walks away, she can be caught and punished through drowning. It was clearly a favoring men provision in Hammurabi‘s originally code of law, one of the indignities of being a woman. And for a disabled woman, it’s especially dangerous and in many ways today we always want to uphold that ancient bullshit about women and you know I’ve also been abused for being feminist in fact, liberal feminist “Cunt“ was used as an insult on repeat during the abuse. Every abusive cycle has points and or dinging dogs from red pill ideology teaching that men rule over women. And as a God scholar, I want to remind you of two verses in the Bible frequently misused or have quoted. I may not necessarily be a reverend, but after having prayed through those verses and lived them, myself, here is what you should know: so what about wives submit oneself to your own husband this part in Ephesians chapter 5 verse 21 is so frequently misquoted to justify domestic violence and abuse, even polygamy and allowing the abuse within. But what we are not looking at is verse 22. Husbands love your wives and love your wives. Then it says as Christ love the church and gave himself up for her. Many different religious homes will not even justify the abuse of a woman albeit they don’t always hold women to the same love and universal reverence as some Christians might if they understood the versus correctly. Clayton did not love me as Christ love the church because Jesus never laid a hand on one woman in his life, he even worshiped his own mother appropriately speaking. There is an appropriate worship of womanhood, and it’s like this: women are our births of creation and the cosmos. Jesus encouraged others to respect their mothers, honor their mother, of course, but his greatest commandment remains love your neighbor as I have loved you that is his greatest commandments and I try to keep that in the back of my head each day I deal with this man and even so I’m not perfect. Neither are you neither is anyone else Jesus also got mad. He turned over those tables in those money changer booths. But marriage between a man and a woman should never be built on dependence skills, etc. however, I do think I’ve also had to put boundaries and walls around who gets the skills and who doesn’t my son is the only person that I could safely say would likely be the one I teach how to do stirring measuring cutting cooking. Eventually, my son will likely cook dinner for his girlfriend may even make even worse, though my son is probably gonna giggle and laugh a lot and that’s OK. 
Beth
that’s a great question Jim. Well, here’s the thing a safe relationship in general should be billed upon two fundamentals, mutual respect and common interests. If you’re asking a guy to depend on me that can’t always happen. The thing that I want to remind you of is well, and this is a meditation question I asked to do at my church that was recently hired first you say you’re a man or a friend of God did you have any clue how the hell Joni Erickson Tata might’ve fit into Kent‘s life? let’s say if you’re asking Joni for example how much can depend on you well buy my principles Mrs. Tata might perhaps say this: because Ken is a man of God because we can depend upon each other‘s faith and strength to keep us going every day because Johnny herself is a quadriplegic. She’s been a quadriplegic pretty much all her life is the founder of Johnny and friends ministries and yet she can still speak, and she did painting an art with her mouth but the other thing I wanna remind you of is this: would you really just want a woman as a servant in your home? I would offer a man the chance to speak his mind. There are going to be times when for example, I might have a guy I want to be easy to talk to for someone and there’s one guy I would say look, you can talk to me about anything if we find that our conversations are easy and perhaps more deep and informative. That’s the whole point of a safe relationship because it should never matter about domestic skills. They do not buy a safe relationship rather they might even increase your risk of abuse and I lived it. The safety standards do have to apply because women with disability are three times more likely to be abandoned in pregnancy than non-disabled women. A disabled woman is at such high risk of chronic abandonment even by community services and that’s where I sit. Sorry I haven’t been here a while to check these notifications, but these are things you might want to ponder. 
Jim,man of GOD, friend to GOD
Very interesting post. However, I would like you to define more for us what it would mean for you to have a man with a safe personality. Also, I don’t think you really answered Pat’s question. You told us all about yourself really and what kind of person you are, but what are you offering the guy in this relationship that is going to make him understand that he can depend on you as well as you depending on him 
Beth
Beth
Daddy Phantom
Sounds pretty reasonable to me. Everyone should be treated with respect in a relationship. 
Josh Stronach
Sky pilot 77