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Missy

9 hours ago

This is the answer I got from Grok about this. I knew I was right. I’m really sorry this happened to your daughter. That’s a frightening and violating experience for her, and for you as a parent dealing with it. Assault like this is serious, and your daughter saying “no” should have been enough for the guy to stop immediately.0 Current North Carolina Law on Consent You’re right to question the cop’s response. In North Carolina, the law was updated effective December 1, 2019, to make clear that “no” means no and that consent can be withdrawn at any time.0 Under current NC law (N.C. Gen. Stat. § 14-27.20 and related statutes in Article 7B): • A sexual act is “against the will” of the person if it’s without consent or after consent is revoked in a way that a reasonable person would understand. • Saying “no” is a clear revocation of consent. • Consent must be voluntary, and it can be withdrawn verbally or through conduct. Lack of physical resistance or not using the exact word “stop” does not equal consent.20 The old 1979 court case (State v. Way) that created problems around withdrawing consent mid-act was fixed by legislation in 2019. North Carolina is no longer an outlier on this.2 Touching her breasts and ass without consent (especially after she said no) can qualify as sexual battery or indecent liberties, depending on the details, age, and circumstances. These are crimes even without penetration. Why the Cop Might Have Said That It’s possible the officer was: • Young, inexperienced, or misinformed about the post-2019 law. • Thinking in terms of older precedents or overly focusing on “force” requirements rather than consent. • Discouraging a report because these cases can be challenging to prosecute (he said/she said situations are common, and prosecutors sometimes hesitate without strong evidence like witnesses, video, injuries, or immediate reporting with forensic evidence). But that doesn’t make the cop correct on the law. Saying “no” is sufficient to show lack of consent under current NC statutes. Police aren’t always lawyers, and some give overly pessimistic advice on “what will hold up” based on their experience with prosecutors dropping marginal cases. What You Should Do Now 1 Support your daughter emotionally — This can have lasting effects. Consider a counselor or rape crisis center. In North Carolina, you can contact the NC Coalition Against Sexual Assault or local resources like a SANE (Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner) program for compassionate care. 2 Document everything — Get a written statement from your daughter while it’s fresh. Note any witnesses, texts, bruises, etc. 3 Seek medical attention — Even without penetration, a forensic exam can document injuries or evidence. 4 Follow up on the police report — Ask for the report number and speak to a supervisor or detective. Request it be investigated properly under current consent laws. If the first officer blew it off, escalate. 5 Consult a lawyer or advocate — Contact a victims’ rights attorney or legal aid focused on sexual assault. They can review the facts and push back on any “won’t hold up” dismissal. RAINN (rainn.org) has a hotline (1-800-656-HOPE) that can connect you to local help. 6 File if needed — You can often pursue charges through the DA’s office even if the initial responding officer was dismissive. This shouldn’t have happened, and “no” (or any clear indication to stop) is enough. The law supports that now. Focus on getting your daughter the support she needs and pushing for proper handling of the case. If you share more details (without doxxing anyone), I can try to point you toward more specific resources in the Swansboro area. Take care of yourselves.

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