Sex before or after the marriage?
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Chase Shepard
Missy
If you let the church marry you, you're marrying the state that you're in. It's a matrimonial marriage, which is under the Catholic Church. Why would you want that? 
Missy
The old way says if you have sex with someone, you are married to them. That's why you should get to know each other before you do that kind of thing. 
Romy
Am I truly the only one who's kinda weirded out that in the year of our sweet Satan 2026 this question's still being asked?
Nick's World
Well, I'm a virgin. I've never had a relationship, but the 1 factor I keep hearing about in relationships that makes it good or doesn't is sex. That has to count for something.
Tapper-🇬🇧
hahah Mate it has to be before. You want to spend the rest of your life with some one who fucks like a wet sleeping bag. Just know. I never get how people can even ask this question! Sex is not the be all and end all, but man when you have to spend the rest of your life without it then you will soon get fed up!
Tyler
Musicman81
DevilishAnthony
I've never been married, and I've had my fair share of sex, so I'll just let that speak for itself.
Gordon
I think a lot of that has to do with what they were taught growing up. In those religions, you stay no matter what unless adultery has been committed which I believe is your only way out. And in a lot of of those religions the man is the king, the head of the household, the master and the buck stops with him. 
Nick's World
You see this in Mormon culture, no sex before marriage and while the divorce rate among mormons is much lower than in mainstream society, part of me wonders what contributes to that? I just wonder if the women in these marriages are truly satisfied by their husbands? especially ones who've been born in the church and thus have very little to no sexual experience.
Gordon
I don't understand how people could make that lifelong commitment without going through all of the motions that they will be expected to go through once the commitment has been signed. I think that a lot of people who do that do it for religious purposes. 
Nick's World
If there's 1 thing I know from reading and watching stories its that sexual compatibility does indeed matter and you can't get taht from a conversation. YOu can take a test with your future wife and still not fully know if you are truly able to enjoy sex together until you have sex together, with protection, of course.
Gordon
And of course there is no on and off switch when it comes to sexual desires. So if you make that lifelong commitment to someone that you're not compatible with, you can't just flip the sexual stuff to the off position for the rest of your life. 
Gordon
Definitely sex before marriage. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and sex is one of the components of a marriage. You wouldn't buy an iPhone, a house, a car or anything else without doing some research before you buy it. 
Matthew J
Absolutely before. I am far too kinky too take a risk like that, only to find that you are incompatible in a very important respect, but be unable to turn back. It’s not everything in a relationship, but it matters, and people that say that it doesn’t matter simply don’t understand it