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Skysong1990
Little hunter frost
Victoria
Victoria
Little hunter frost
Gordon
I've never been married before myself, but I have had a lot of buddies tell me that they had more sex in the first year of their marriage then they did for the rest of their marriage. So yes, the mental connection thing is pretty important. The orgasm only lasts about 20 seconds, and there's a hell of a lot of day left after you have that orgasm. So without that mental connection, there's nothing left to do for the rest of the day. 
Eddie Howitzer
I tell my son that no matter how hot a woman is that you're dating, that if you guys cannot make each other laugh. Then you should cut your losses, and just move away. 
Eddie Howitzer
You're talking about courting someone, and that's really when you get a chance to know each other. Past the physical aspect of lust, eventually have to get to the cerebral and mental connection with each other. There's an old saying that I've been saying for years, and it is very true. That is, "show me a gorgeous woman, and I will show you a man that is tired of fucking her!" i'm just simply saying that eventually both of you guys are going to have to talk, and realize that past the physicalness you guys are not very compatible. 
Skysong1990
Goldfingas
Eddie Howitzer
 the keyword is "adult," and sadly there's only one adult that has to carry all the weight in the relationships. That might be compatible for some people, but an absolute majority it is not! 
Eddie Howitzer
The truth is also that you are never going to find that person that is 100% what you're looking for, and you simply have to compromise. If the pros completely outweigh the cons, and most importantly you guys vibe together. Then it is something worth investing your time in 
Eddie Howitzer
Skysong some people just refuse to except that the round peg does not fit in the square hole, and refused to acknowledge that they are just not compatible! 
Skysong1990
Eddie Howitzer
Also Skysong sometimes what you bring to the table is something that you do not want from that person or anyone else, and it might be something that is absolutely part of the package with that other person that cannot be changed.
Skysong1990
Eddie Howitzer
Skysong1990
Skysong1990
Eddie Howitzer
Lol Rachel blocked me
Rachel K
Eddie Howitzer
Rachel did you even hear the question that he asked, or did you just want to talk? He's simply as "what do you bring to the table."
Rachel K
Eddie Howitzer
You are single, but hate to live alone. So then you still live at home with your parents? I'm so confused
Gordon
And what am I out here seeking? I simply live my life. If I were to happen to run into someone out here that I hit it off with then cool, but I don't go anywhere seeking anything. At the current moment in time I am single so I really have no need to have my own house because I hate living alone. But if that status ever changes then I am more than capable of adjusting to it and doing the necessary things to put the pieces together. At the current moment I have the dream set up for someone who is single that doesn't necessarily want to live alone but that still wants the same privacy of living alone. 
Eddie Howitzer
If you can purchase a house right now as you claim Gordon, that means you are financially secured. Yet it seems that you're having the impossible task to find someone that can tolerate you regardless of how much money you claim to have, because you're on this application seeking instead of being out there trying to find someone. You contradict everything I've ever been told, because I was always told if your money game as long then your dick game is long; however, it seems that you are the exception! 
Eddie Howitzer
I think that it's just a lack of grown-up men, and women acting like adults! It seems for everyone that it is hard to find an actual adult partner whether you're sided, or blind. 
Gordon
One of the most valuable lessons that I learned when I was at the Texas school for the blind didn't actually come from the school but from a student who attended the school. There was a guy there who had turned 18 the school year that I was there and got the settlement from a lawsuit because he was given too much oxygen at birth. He literally blew through $350,000 in one school year. And he lived on campus and had absolutely no expenses. So I learned a very valuable lesson from him because I was a kid just like he was when I saw him go through that money like that. 
Gordon
I can definitely cook but only if absolutely necessary because I don't like to cook. And that really has nothing to do with blindness I'm just one of those guys I don't like to cook. Now I know some guys who are absolutely awesome cooks but they enjoy it and I don't. But financially, I definitely have a lot to offer if I wanted to buy my own home I could. I started out with very little money, so I think that's where my good money management skills come from. Some people who start up with little money go crazy when they start improving their financial situation but I always hit my kept my head grounded when it came to that. I'm definitely comfortable financially, but I don't go out and blow a bunch of money on things just to have them. I have what I need and some of what I want. 
Goldfingas
Goldfingas
Déjà Brew Diane
Gordon
Oh I have plenty to contribute to a relationship. How do you think that girl ate when she was here and everything else? 
Torii
Oh wait what? Some people don’t know how to even clean? What? Did I just hear that correctly? just wow… How is that even possible? If I knew someone who didn’t clean I would say they are straight up lazy, just my opinion, have not known or met anyone who did not know how to clean… lol that is craziness… just saying , You all have a wonderful day
Goldfingas
Goldfingas
I'm definitely not opposed to opening up the discussion. Yes it started off as a question for the ladies, but it definitely can go both ways. And yes, I am quite heterosexual. But I also live and let live. I have no judgment toward the LGBTQ community. 
Sahsqiah
Sounds like you've got it going on, as you should. It honestly shouldn't be anything remarkable to be an adult handling their shit, and yet somehow it is. How bizarre how bizarre. Also, you strike me as heterosexual, so it makes perfect sense that you would be asking about women. I didn't mean to derail the conversation but it's cool you're open to the other side as well. A comment her above said something about you might be reinforcing stereotypes of women in the kitchen, but that's not what I get from this at all. What I'm hearing here, and what I can speak to through my own lived experience, is your point about levels. You are speaking truth when you talk about strain on the relationship when most of the responsibility falls upon one of the involved rather than it being as balanced as possible. I will add that we need to be well matched too. In effort, in energy, in core values. We all have our strengths. we must be clear on what those are, be clear on who we are and what we want, and reinforce and refine as we grow, picking up and strengthening other aptitudes and skill as we go. The trouble is a lot of blind folks get coddled or lack the drive to be more, do more. Learned helplessness, low expectations and all that. *Deep breath* I understand the purpose for this app is to ramble, but I've got a pork butt in the oven and some potatoes and eggs ready to be made into salad. My coffee is getting cold and there's so much more to do besides. So I will wish you a great day and thank you for the topic. I'll look forward to more!
Gordon
Well the blind girl that I was with couldn't even cook a corndog in the microwave, but she was pretty good in the sack so it kind of made up for everything else until it didn't. So in the words of Jerry Reed the first few weeks weren't all that bad I'll never forget the good times that we had but fortunately I'm not having to send her child support. 
Déjà Brew Diane
Tapper-🇬🇧
I can't record a voice reply as it will not work on the website or android. All so @Leftist Point of View FFS mate can you talk a little faster? I was close to falling a sleep!
Goldfingas
Leftist Point of View
Sahsqiah
As a fully "independent woman doing her thing", I'm butting in for just a sec to say that finding a "man" within this community presents with similar challenges. How was it that you put it? Oh yes, "The dating pool is full of pee pee, poo poo, and needles." It's doubly disappointing if going at life with a blind partner is your preference. Good luck to all of us seeking substance, sovereignty, stick-two-itiveness...